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Setting Boundaries/This is Us-Part II (4/22/18)

Definition: a Boundary is a property line that separates you from another person

            Two types:

                        External

                        Internal

Four Key Areas where we NEED to Set Boundaries

1.  Friendship

            –  Healthy friendships are reciprocal.

            –  Healthy friendships involve limits.  (Luke 10:25-35)

‘Look after him,’ he said, ‘and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.’  (v.35)

2.  Family

            – Families are where we learn about boundaries.

            – Learning to say “no” is a very important exercise for the development of every human being.

            – One reason we don’t say no; when we did, love was withdrawn.

            – Children need to be able to say “no”, but they also need to learn to hear “No.”

            –  In addition to the law of individual responsibility, children need to understand the law of sowing & reaping.  (Galatians 6:7)

            –  Families get in trouble, when parents take inappropriate responsibility for their children’s’ problems.

3.  Work

There is a time to say yes to work, and there is a time to say no to work.

            – When you are at work, work.(Eccl 9:10)

            – Work wholeheartedly.

Work at everything you do with all your heart. Work as if you were working for the Lord,(Colossians 3:23)

            – If you are overworked or obsessed with work, you need to draw a boundary.

4.  Spiritual

Saying yes to God means saying no to anything that gets in the way of following him.

            – Moses, Aaron and the Golden Calf : (Exodus 32)

            – Boundary Challenges:

                        1.  Instead of trusting and waiting, we want to create gods that we can control.

                        2.  Will I take responsibility for my actions?
If you have crossed a boundary, your healing will not start until you say, “I did it.” Jesus  (Mark 1:35-38)

Sometimes saying “yes” to God means saying “no”  to pressures, to demands, to temptations And sometimes it means saying no to people.

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